It's Time to Become the Type of Person You Want Your Kids to Be in 2023 !!
The question isn’t so much “Are you parenting the right way?” as it is: “Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?”
For many of us however, the answer comes up as “No”. Knowing all our flaws and imperfections intimately, many of us want much more for our kids and hope that they will grow up to be far better people than we ourselves are.
Being a role model isn’t easy, and it scares the living daylight out of most of us!
We wish we were perfect and could say “My child, I’ll show you how it’s done. I’ll show you how to live a marvelously happy and fulfilled life”.
But we can’t. So most of us end up with some variant of – “My child, I’ll tell you how it’s done. Now go on, follow my advice, live a marvelously happy and fulfilled life and make me proud!”
Here’s the thing – and we all know it too – kids don’t learn from what we tell them, they learn from watching what we do. Every single minute of every single day.
So, whether we want to or not, we are their role models.
Given that, what if we could instead learn to say, “My child, I’ve been around a little longer. God knows I’ve made my share of mistakes but thankfully I’ve learnt a thing or two. I’m trying to implement what I’ve learnt in our lives so we can live a marvellously happy and fulfilled life. Come along, I’ll show you what I know and let’s figure out the rest together.”
Of course, we won’t use those exact words, but when we put it that way, being a role model doesn’t feel so scary, does it?
And we do make far better role models too. Not ones who are perfect and know all the right answers. But ones that bring out the best, inspire and motivate.
Build Growth Mindset in your Kids :
Parents can take steps to ensure that their children develop growth mindset by praising efforts not results. By focusing on the process rather than the outcome, adults can help kids understand that their efforts, hard work, and dedication can lead to change, learning, and growth both now and in the future.
Here’s an example of how they’re different. If your child gets a good grade on a math test, personal praise might be, “See, you are good at math. You got an A on your test.” Process praise, on the other hand, might sound like this: “I’m impressed by how hard you studied for your math test. You read the material over several times, asked your teacher to help you figure out the tricky problems, and tested yourself on it. That really worked!”
Make a Vision Board Together :
Create a Vision Board together as a family & paste specific images of the goals that you all want, accept your kids vision & be the example yourself by believing in a better life to inspire them, it will be a lot of fun & will help you all grow together as a family & live a happy + fulfilled life.
Visualize with them, read affirmations together, get images of what your kids want from life to understand their vision & provide them with resources to take action on their goals & believe in themselves.
Example : Last year, I wanted to be more relaxed – to stop stressing so much and go with the flow more. Our family made a goal to all be more observant, loving and helpful. One of my daughters wanted to be more patient, another to be more focused.
Create Environment for Success :
Invest in Whiteboards & Chalkboards for your kids and yourself, your environment plays a very big role. So add tools that brings out the best of you & your kids by using these tools for brainstorming, painting, problem-solving & more. Remember : your kids are watching you & this will definitely create a larger impact on their lives than you could imagine.
Key Points to Remember :
Your kids are gonna figure you out someday :
"You can be anybody you want to be", Really dad then how come you're not ?? "You can accomplish anything in the world you want sweet heart" Well, why haven't you then mom ??
They're watching you, so be the person you want your kids to be when they grow up !!